Of thoughts

Had it not been for my curiosity to understand how the human mind works as put into theoretical frameworks by people who had conducted social experiments based on human behaviors, I think I'd be a less forgiving person.

Although such reads provide logical reasonings to why people act as such, the insight gained may not necessarily help me fathom the same issues - discussed in print - if its applied to the real context.
The best sound & rational explanation sociologists could give is that humans have been (blessed or cursed) to be imperfect - oh, don't we all know that.
These imperfections, manifested in different forms, have been said to be more evident if its seen from another's eyes.
Simply because most of the time, we humans are blind when it comes to seeing our mistakes.
And more often than not, we created our own comforting lines to justify our actions.

In this century it may translate to 'nothings really good or bad or even right or wrong' - it's just what your code of principle you choose to live with.
But the right to your own mind demands another level of introspection.

As emphasized by my academic writing tutor - sure its your intellectual property & granted you may have a freedom of speech but could you exercise it responsibly?
I remembered that tutorial where questions were shot back at her, if we have the right to write what we want, why must there be academic conventions that we have to conform to?
My tutor is one with a quick wit, twisted a little bit of our mindset & asked back the same question I found myself pondering about -

If everyone wants to say their piece, who's going to listen?


It doesn't take a genius to understand that the social experiments conducted spoke of one big problem faced by the human race - communication breakdown.
Wherein lies the missing puzzle - what could have gone wrong as we proudly embrace technological advances?

Dad and I had our usual discussion over tea. Some days it takes hours & today was one of them.
My dad works with NS men - which means he handles young men. Eventually stories of his boys will be brought up during our conversations and in the span of two weeks, he had to witness yet another marriage falling apart because of financial issues that finally triggered to the husband having an affair without thinking of his one year old kid and his pregnant wife.

Dad is a chauvinist (and a stubborn one) told me 'It's women who hurt their own female counterparts'.
Of course, I said - its men who couldn't keep their eyes and hands to themselves.
But dad proved a point.
When had it become normal to head for a divorce if a slight misunderstanding went wrong?

Dad said a lot of it boils down to communication.
You may speak different languages and perceived things differently but there should be a way you could meet halfway and compromise.
When it comes to relationships, albeit any forms, communicating may simply mean spending a little of your time listening to another person baring his/her soul to you.
In our usual cases, often we forgot to ask the million dollar question 'Why did you do as such?'

For despite our wrongs which we believed to be rights, we have our reasons to justify our actions - it's just people don't ask for them.

And if we go back to the most convenient truth that describe humans -
Imperfection is second nature to us - it makes us no worst or better than another.