:: do nice guys really finish last? ::
I'm currently addicted to Miami Ink, in admiration of tattoo artists sketching intricate designs which take a lot of homework on their part to put ideas in producing a great piece of body artwork.
But what caught me on today's episode was Ami, the shop owner who, in my opinion, exudes a kind of raw sexual appeal that I find uniquely charming.
It has nothing to do with the tattoos all over his body, I think it's his sense of presence that could literally stopped a crowd.
Over the weekend, the best friend & I, over our usual coffee session talked about our preference when it comes to choosing a partner.
Although we have extremely different taste when it comes to the looks department, there are some common qualities that we appreciate in our men.
We discussed stubbornness, decisive, independent & strong.
Nowadays, men have new labels attached to them ranging from sensitive new age to metrosexual to a himbo.
Over decades, as we witness activists fighting for female rights, there's no reason to wonder why we, females are letting gender equality get to us.
We say if a man can do it, so can we.
We scoffed off traditional roles of man & woman practiced over centuries where the man goes out hunting to put food on the table while the woman tends to domestic chores.
It's a relatively good combination to building a family, yet as men start to take for granted, reigning power of leadership & showed off superiority by abusing the opposite sex, we are left with little choice but to flaunt our kick-ass attitude just to give them a reminder that we can't be easily bullied.
The fight for this gender equality has produced results, manifested in many modern societies where the females now can head a company, leads a group of men & in fact, we come close to accepting the fact that the only difference between men & women is the chromosomes.
A little observation sparked an interesting thought, is this gender equality responsible for man losing their manliness and women losing their feminine touch as well as the rise of a homosexual culture?
Are we really that confused?
I've recently heard a guy friend lamenting on how he had done everything for a girl, yet she chose a 'bad-boy' image guy (who proves to be quite an asshole) over him.
And I asked, what do you mean when you say everything?
To which he replied, running errands for her, at her beck & call 24/7, missed the boys get- together because she didn't allow him to.
In short, he's such a nice guy, you just feel like shooting the girl who probably has a problem appreciating kindness.
But turned the coin around, I must confess he's actually over-doing it.
Yes, I believe it's back to preference.
And according to mine, he quite painted a picture of a henpecked man, someone who does everything you want him to do.
I've grown up with a dad who brainwashed me more often than not to try rationalize issues from a men's perspective.
If I am stubborn, I need someone equally stubborn or more than me.
If I am independent, I need an equally independent man.
Just my luck, I often ended up with this kind of breed.
As the best friend & I were talking.
This breed can reduced you to tears had you not been a thick-skinned.
This breed can develop an egocentric problem if you try to feed him with compliments.
This breed can stir a courtroom with smart responses under a calm demeanor.
This breed can shake your sanity just by being practical.
This breed can seduced you with their ambitions & lured you into making one of your own.
This breed can tipped your emotional balance with just having their own set of principles.
But this breed always give you a challenge, you will be too occupied to get bored for you will spend most of your time peeling the different layers to discover that soft side of him, the real person inside hiding behind that bad-boy image.
Do nice guys finish last?
No, my friend.
It's just that we can get greedy - we want nice plus ruggedness.
Because even though we are equal now, we still need someone to protect us.
Do you want a guy who cowers behind you at the sight of robbers?
I know I don't. :p
I'm currently addicted to Miami Ink, in admiration of tattoo artists sketching intricate designs which take a lot of homework on their part to put ideas in producing a great piece of body artwork.
But what caught me on today's episode was Ami, the shop owner who, in my opinion, exudes a kind of raw sexual appeal that I find uniquely charming.
It has nothing to do with the tattoos all over his body, I think it's his sense of presence that could literally stopped a crowd.
Over the weekend, the best friend & I, over our usual coffee session talked about our preference when it comes to choosing a partner.
Although we have extremely different taste when it comes to the looks department, there are some common qualities that we appreciate in our men.
We discussed stubbornness, decisive, independent & strong.
Nowadays, men have new labels attached to them ranging from sensitive new age to metrosexual to a himbo.
Over decades, as we witness activists fighting for female rights, there's no reason to wonder why we, females are letting gender equality get to us.
We say if a man can do it, so can we.
We scoffed off traditional roles of man & woman practiced over centuries where the man goes out hunting to put food on the table while the woman tends to domestic chores.
It's a relatively good combination to building a family, yet as men start to take for granted, reigning power of leadership & showed off superiority by abusing the opposite sex, we are left with little choice but to flaunt our kick-ass attitude just to give them a reminder that we can't be easily bullied.
The fight for this gender equality has produced results, manifested in many modern societies where the females now can head a company, leads a group of men & in fact, we come close to accepting the fact that the only difference between men & women is the chromosomes.
A little observation sparked an interesting thought, is this gender equality responsible for man losing their manliness and women losing their feminine touch as well as the rise of a homosexual culture?
Are we really that confused?
I've recently heard a guy friend lamenting on how he had done everything for a girl, yet she chose a 'bad-boy' image guy (who proves to be quite an asshole) over him.
And I asked, what do you mean when you say everything?
To which he replied, running errands for her, at her beck & call 24/7, missed the boys get- together because she didn't allow him to.
In short, he's such a nice guy, you just feel like shooting the girl who probably has a problem appreciating kindness.
But turned the coin around, I must confess he's actually over-doing it.
Yes, I believe it's back to preference.
And according to mine, he quite painted a picture of a henpecked man, someone who does everything you want him to do.
I've grown up with a dad who brainwashed me more often than not to try rationalize issues from a men's perspective.
If I am stubborn, I need someone equally stubborn or more than me.
If I am independent, I need an equally independent man.
Just my luck, I often ended up with this kind of breed.
As the best friend & I were talking.
This breed can reduced you to tears had you not been a thick-skinned.
This breed can develop an egocentric problem if you try to feed him with compliments.
This breed can stir a courtroom with smart responses under a calm demeanor.
This breed can shake your sanity just by being practical.
This breed can seduced you with their ambitions & lured you into making one of your own.
This breed can tipped your emotional balance with just having their own set of principles.
But this breed always give you a challenge, you will be too occupied to get bored for you will spend most of your time peeling the different layers to discover that soft side of him, the real person inside hiding behind that bad-boy image.
Do nice guys finish last?
No, my friend.
It's just that we can get greedy - we want nice plus ruggedness.
Because even though we are equal now, we still need someone to protect us.
Do you want a guy who cowers behind you at the sight of robbers?
I know I don't. :p
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