:: the motto ::

Over the Msn, the man & I chatted.
And then he asked, 'By look - my nick. That is going to be my new motto man. What do you think?'
Always trust the unpredictable man to come up with weird things out of nowhere.
(Trust me, if a boyfriend makes you a running training log together with an objective, that is well I suppose, unpredictable)
So his new motto now is 'Winning is secondary. Learning is priority'.
What do I think?
I think everyone has a right to lead a life according to their own principles, so long it doesn't endanger anyone around them.
Yes, very much a politically right answer. Then again, what is right and what is wrong?

This is the part where a relationship takes on a whole new level.
Sharing your deepest ambition (even if you think its a damn stupid one) with another person whom you've pledged the unspoken commitment to.
So I told him, I daydreamed and in it, I saw the man & I opening our own charity trust fund for children in need.
To which he replied 'Oh you mean, the Henry & Saloma trust fund?'
(He's still gloating about that Henry-look-alike and a friend of mine smartly left a comment on my friendster picture in three simple words 'Henry & Saloma?' which he finds it amusing and when he had the chance to, often teased me with that.)

The man has always been my practical 'reasoner' which balances the dreamer me.
I don't deny the truth when he lay out the facts, 'You can't change the world by. There's only so much you can do but if you can change a mindset within the power granted to you, then I'd think you have accomplished what you have set out to do.'

Which then strikes me, am I right to believe that you got to have power to empower?

Put it this way.
Between Oprah and a fisherman who decides to discuss the topic of child slavery - whom would you prefer to listen to? I think Oprah stands a higher chance of getting her points come across.

From what I observed and from my little experience interviewing 'high-profile' people, they all know what they are doing and am good at what they are doing.
So to speak, a strong conviction to what you are standing up for is primarily essential when it comes to making a difference or directing a change of mindset.

Like I told the man - I had not intended to change the world. But having to deal with children from your own race who had no choice but to look up to their irresponsible adult parents as role models, opening windows of opportunities for them may just be the ticket out of a poverty cycle that had claimed their rights to dream for a better future.

But for now, the least I could do is be on the ground and continue to learn for if I intend to direct a change of mindset, I have to, first change my own mindset that undoubtedly had been clouded by irrational bias and irresponsible poor judgments.

And I hope the man will stick to his new motto and the ideals he had set for the children he's responsible for.

Oh well, who knows the Henry & Saloma trust fund might come true?
I told you I like to dream.

'The fact that millions of people share the same vices does not make these vices virtues, the fact that they share so many errors does not make the errors to be truths, and the fact that millions of people share the same forms of mental pathology does not make these people sane.'
- Eric Fromm's 'The Sane Society'